The funeral is over and I am back to work again. It was so hard to put everything on hold to attend to the matters of honoring my mom and greeting the hundreds of people who came with condolences. It was great to see how many people my mom touched in her life. As I chokingly said at the funeral in front of the overflowing room of people as I began hyperventilating (and for the record I am usually very comfortable speaking to groups) that my mom surrounded herself with the best of the best and I know that I will always hear her words of guidance from others but it is still going to suck not having a mom to help me put on a wedding dress or walk me through raising my children. But all that is over and I am back to the everyday swing of things.
School is nearing a close here at IMSA and the seniors have a week till graduation, my high school graduation seems so long ago but I am able to relate with their sadness and excitement for leaving to go to college. I know they will all go on to do great things!
Onto the wedding planning side of things, holy crap is this a pain in my caboose! My father (a very experienced hotel general manager with an extensive catering background) sees a formal, traditional reception in our future. Which I am fine with but who is going to pay for this? He is speaking of taking out a loan on the house and having Chris and I save every single penny for the next year (and we are people who like to buy shiny new toys). I just want to marry him. Not through a party that is cookie cutter to what "weddings are supposed to be".
Here are my very lofty dreams of wedding planning:
1. Keep the budget around $10,000 (this may not be possible but I figure aim low at first and then we can reevaluate it later)
2. Book a location that is already beautiful so we don't have to worry about decorations (waste of money in my book, but necessary if you reserve a stuffy hotel banquet room... we'll see how this one works out)
3. Find my mother's wedding dress that is rumored to be stowed away in my parents' basement and see if it is salvageable (she was always smaller than I am now but she was 6 mo pregnant with me when they got married and my grandma claims that she just bought a larger regular dress)
4. Find a way to feed our 100 guests at about $40 a person... buffet style?
5. Get a date, so I can finally answer people when they ask me!
Saturday, May 23, 2009
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